“Maturity has nothing to do with age. You can be just as immature at the age of 55 as you were at 25, especially if you never learn anything about assuming responsibility. No one should have to remind you to assume your responsibilities; and if for some reason you can’t, at least be mature enough to face it. Avoidance is nothing more than burying your head in the sand and pretending that the problem does not exist.” (Excerpt from The Deception of Spiritual Leadership)
Unity of Word and Deed
April 1, 2013 by
What matters the most is not in what we say but in what we do. While we may say all of the right words, if our actions does not coincide with our words, it is null and void. Karen Maloy
Relationships and Character
March 31, 2013 by
“To take what someone said in confidence and use it against them says a lot about one’s character – they have none!” Karen Maloy
Don’t Trust The Title!
March 28, 2013 by
“Just because someone holds a title or is in a prominent position doesn’t mean that they are qualified but, infers they possess the foundational tools for success. According to Murphy’s Law, every man (or woman) rises to their level of incompetence; and what they do with that level makes a world of difference. A spiritual leader with a position has not arrived, but have just arrived to their next training ground. While it may allow you the responsibility to lead others, it does absolve you of the responsibility of leading yourself.” (excerpted from “The Deception of Spiritual Leadership” by Karen Maloy)
Grace and Relationships
March 27, 2013 by
“Be honest about the people you do not grace for; pray for now, and leave them for the people who are ready!” Karen Maloy
Destructive Relationships
March 22, 2013 by
“The thief comes to steal, kill and destroy; sadly enough, he uses people.” Karen Maloy
What exactly is emotional abuse?
March 21, 2013 by
“Bruises and broken bones are potential signs of physical abuse, but emotional abuse leaves no obvious marks. “Emotional abuse is about someone manipulating your emotions on a psychological level,” Krumins explains. “And it goes beyond simple verbal bullying.” Emotional abusers may come across as bullies, yet they are often “silent monsters” that fake affection while knowing precisely how to manipulate situations, hurt and humiliate their victims and do whatever it takes to stay in control of the situation and their victims.
Even though emotional abusers can quickly explain away or make excuses for their abusive behavior, Krumins is quick to state that emotional abusers know exactly what they’re doing. Emotional abusers are masters of manipulation, lying, intimidation and guilt. “They’ve been perfecting what they do to people ever since they were little — and they chose to be this way,” she adds. “They don’t want to change and they don’t care who they hurt as long as no one suspects them, and the situation works for them.” Michele Borboa, MS
Empowerment and Relationships
February 16, 2013 by
God sends people into your life to empower you. – Karen Maloy
When God created man it was for a purpose - to fellowship with Him. When He built Eve for Adam it was for a purpose - to fellowship with Him. When He gave His son to die on the cross, it was for a purpose - to bring us back into fellowship with Him. Knowing this about God, then we can conclude that he is a purposeful God. Given that we are also created in His image, then we can conclude that we are to become purposeful, and when it comes to our relationships, we also have to consider that they are there for a purpose. In Hebrews 10:25, we learn that we are not to forsake coming together in order to encourage one another. While we have conveniently interpreted that to mean that we need to go to church, it is more of a principle to encourage saints to stay connected with one another. It just so happens that church is the place where that most often occurs. However, if we have limited our fellowship to only those moments when we attending church, we are in fact hindering our own development. Much like the diamond in the rough that needs pressure to become that precious stone, Christians need one another to develop into that beautiful treasure God intended them to be. When we consider the relationships in our lives, we have to learn to evaluate them according to God principles. If they are not helping you to grow, mature and flourish, then consider that their purpose may not be empowerment but - depowerment! Be Blessed - Min. Karen
Respect and Relationships
February 8, 2013 by
Although God requires us to respect all individuals equally, we must realize that He tells us to do it because it is not something that we always find easy to do. Just think about it, if it was something that we could do so easily, God would not have to give us a commandment to do it. However, while we can (and should) expect someone to respect us, it is something that we cannot demand.
According to John Maxwell respect is something which must be earned. So, when we think of respect in relation to our relationships, we must remember that it is two-fold – 1) it is something that we should strive to always give, and 2) it it is something that we should always expect to receive. If you are not I encourage you to consider the following, perhaps you have not presented yourself as someone who deserves to be respected; or worst yet, the other person doesn’t know how to respect you. Whatever the case you have a choice to make – change yourself or change the people around you.
Relationships
February 6, 2013 by
“Understand that your relationships have a divine purpose”. – Karen Maloy